In a society where being "BEAUTIFUL" can bring you success and admiration how wouldn't we expect ourselves to compare ourselves to each other? We have been conditioned to admire and compare ourserlves over clothing,cars,money, and looks. Comparing materialism separates us from our true self and lets our egos thrive. What is our ego? A persons sense of self-esteem or self-importance. Ego is a social need. Egos need to be fed with more and more materialism to thrive. Your ego needs acceptance from others. Your ego is threatened by anyone who is "higher"(on the social scale) than you.
How can we find our true selves hidden in all this ego? There are businesses that have been created to ruin our ego to sell us products to try to patch our egos up. We begin hating ourselves. Fighting with our true self and the facade we have created. We become lonely when alone because we fill ourselves with man-made glory in which we don't know the pure gold of simplicity of BEING. Through magazines, tv, billboards, and news, we are fed each day with BULLSHIT to feed our egos. Make the ego grow.
Our egotistic society has led us to a processed life. Through media, food, injections, and surgery we have started to lose the real beauty of natural ( JUST KNOW I DO NOT SHAME ANYONE FOR GETTING ANYTHING ALTERED TO THEIR BODY I JUST BELIEVE THAT BEFORE YOU DO SO YOU SHOULD FIND PEACE WITH YOU BEFORE DOING SO). We have skipped trying to even find the good in us and have jumped straight to filling ourselves with things that are not good for us to make us happy for the moment. We have stopped working hard and expect things to be given to us right away.
From childhood the conditioning starts. Parents are focused on themselves. They are focused on what they think is right. They teach from how they were taught. They put their conditioning on us. Is this their fault? No. They don't know any other way but for us we are doomed because we become our parents. We also become the world. We become the shows we watch, we become what we are taught. We are the experiences we experience. We deal with each others egos. How can a child bloom in this world?
For me I was always a hairy, tall, skinny child. I had no care in the world, I basically thought I ruled it. I was an outgoing ball of energy ready to kick life's ass. WELL Life happened, which brings tragedies and hard times I went through I switched from extrovert to introvert. This brought me more to my mind & more passive about what people said and letting it sink to my subconscious. From fourth grade to highschool I can clearly remember people started picking at my outer appearance and making me more aware and frightened of myself for feeling different. As a teenager your constantly growing, changing,a and have weird things happen to you. Its such a vulnerable state. Wondering is this normal? Should I be growing this? Then having others kids going through the same things but having their ego attack you because of their insecurities again makes us not be able to bloom.
From having body hair (which scared all the boys and made them point it out to me), to friends moms picking on me for being so skinny, to people pointing out my acne ( like I didn't know it was there), for me being too tall, to me having two very small baby teeth (that I was constantly reminded out), to a friend showing a group of boys my boobs and them laughing about my nipples ( I didn't know nipples could be different could be so funny ), to being told I need to lose weight and on the other part of the scale being told I would be hotter with a big butt, To grown men sexualizing me because I had boobs, I could go on and on but moral of the story I started hating things about myself I was totally oblivious about because I was just me, I did not see a problem with me.
Through the build up of my childhood somehow I took a step back. I realized it wasn't really me who was the problem. When I would look at people with the same "flaws" as me I would see the beauty in them. I admired others. Why wasn't I admiring myself? This is what led me to thenakediaries. We are all here for a reason. There is beauty in everyone, though some people can not see that. Just because I find something beautiful and someone else doesn't thats okay. The one thing matters in this earth is being secure with yourself because at the end of the day when your'e alone with your self and your thoughts and if you are truly happy with yourself that is all that matters. If I can help one person realize their true beauty through all the chaos is what makes my heart thrive.
I'm not going to lie and say I never get self conscious because that would be the biggest lie in the world, but I have gotten to love who I am & with that I can rule the world.
WAYS TO GROUND YOURSELF/KNOCK DOWN YOUR EGO:
EAT HEALTHY ( HEALTHY FOOD CAN STILL BE VERY YUMMY)
WRITE THE GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF
WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS AND ACCOMPLISH THEM
GET RID OF TOXIC PEOPLE
FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION
REPLACE YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS WITH POSITIVE
DO WHAT MAKES YOU TRULY HAPPY
GO INTO NATURE
JOIN A NEW CLASS THAT SPARKS YOUR INTERESTS
TAKE A SPONTANEOUS TRIP
DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
TAKE TIME OFF THE INTERNET